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How Can She Have Babies and Not Me?

Sunday, 07 February 2021 Written by  Super User

Naa Jaane Kyun Hota Hai Yeh Zindagi Ke Saath

Becoming pregnant might seem easy for a lot of women but for others it may not be so simple. Young girls spend all their life saying that we’ll have kids in the future so when it doesn’t happen, you often wonder ‘Why Me’? The fact that young girls typically spend so many years trying not to get pregnant makes it a much bigger shock when they find out that it’s not happening. You wouldn’t know if you can make babies or not until you try for one. Not being able to have a baby can be, to a large extent, a very silent thing with no signs or symptoms of any underlying condition.

Infertility is a growing concern these days and it is important to detect the causes so as to be able to treat it. Not having children these days can be by choice as well as by circumstances. About 80% of women who don’t have children are childless by circumstances and not by choice.


Why can she have a Baby?

Before discussing a possible factor that can cause female infertility, it is important to know the factors needed for a pregnancy to occur naturally.

• A good quality egg

• A good quality sperm

• Healthy and functional Fallopian tube for the egg and sperm to meet

• A healthy uterus to house the embryo

• Ability to have sexual intercourse; and of course

• Good physical and mental health


Why can’t I have a Baby?

The act of becoming a mother is based on certain biological factors and every woman needs to meet those biological factors to have a baby. Humans aren’t that fertile to begin with. The chance for a young couple getting pregnant in one month of regular intercourse is only about 25%. The problems which may lead to infertility may be the ones which you were born with, ones which are caused by ageing and some that can’t be figured out.

Direct causes of female reproductive problems may be related to each organ within the reproductive system viz. the ovary / uterus / Fallopian tube / cervix / vagina. On the other hands the fault may lie at the brain (hypothalamus pituitary) that controls the female reproductive organs.


Too Many Eggs but still no baby : PCOS link to Infertility!!!

PCOS is the most common cause of infertility in women. PCOS is basically a condition of hormonal imbalance leading to infrequent, if not persistent, anovulation (failure to release egg). PCOS is a condition wherein women have too many eggs in their ovaries but none of them reaches maturation to get released from the ovary. Release of an egg (ovulation) is mandatory for a pregnancy to happen. However, PCOS is not the worst thing in the world to have – it is better for a woman to have too many eggs than too few.


The Ticking Biological Clock : Age and Infertility

Let’s get it crisp and clear – Infertility Management, to a large extent, is Time Management. Female age is not only one of the biggest factors for female infertility but also one of the most important factors which determine the success of fertility treatment. Women are only ‘warehouses’ of eggs and not ‘producers’ meaning that as a woman ages, the number and the quality of their eggs decreases. Every menstrual cycle, many eggs are recruited from the woman’s ovaries but only a few reach maturation and are released. This means that there is a large wastage of eggs every menstrual cycle which leads to steady depletion of eggs over the years.

The rate of depletion varies from woman to woman and the numerical age of the woman may not always correspond to the age of her ovaries. There are quite a few younger women who have reduced fertility due to their compromised ovarian reserve. A woman at the age of 30 has approx. 20% chance per month of conceiving but only a 5 % chance when she is 40.


Still an Enigma : Endometriosis and Infertility

Endometriosis is one of those words that many of us have heard, but may not quite know what it means. Endometriosis is a condition when the tissue that normally lines the inside of a woman’s uterus grows outside of it.

Endometriosis not only actually impacts the ovary affecting both the quality and quantity of eggs but also leads to scarring and distortion, which also affects the Fallopian tubes and the fertilization capability of the eggs.

Apart from the anatomical distortion that endometriosis may cause, it may also lead to release of certain chemicals and immunological factors which also may contribute to infertility.


The Transport Trouble : Tubal Factors and Infertility

The Fallopian tube plays the role of a transporter of eggs and sperms. It is also the place where the female egg and the sperm meet to achieve fertilisation. Blockage of tube on both the sides makes natural conception impossible.

Infection, injury, scarring because of PID, endometriosis or surgical procedures like termination of pregnancy may affect the tubes. It may block the path of the egg from the Fallopian tube to the uterus as well as the transition of the sperm to the uterus causing difficulty in fertilisation.


The Woes of the Womb : Uterus and Infertility

The womb houses the embryo and is the place where ultimately the embryo will grow into a fully developed baby. Problems in the womb can be there from the birth or may develop later on spontaneously or because of certain infections and/or procedures.In some cases, the uterus may be absent from birth or in some cases may be double from birth.

In some cases, a growth known as fibroid may distort the womb and may prevent implantation of a fertilised egg. Uterus can get damaged in the form of sticking together of the womb lines – this condition is known as Asherman’s syndrome. Asherman’s syndrome may result from tuberculosis infection or following some surgical procedures. This may deny access to the sperms from reaching eggs leading to Infertility.


To Sum Up

Although from the outside, having a baby may look easy; in reality it can be much more complex. Reproduction is as much complex as it is to assemble the tiny parts in a computer for it to work; and it is no more than a miracle when everything gets assembled properly and leads to the formation of a baby. But then that’s only under the best of conditions and lately the best of conditions have been found to be hard to come by.

Motherhood is the only fuel that will make you do the impossible! Hoping that you bring the best piece of art into the world!


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